Prestige Parenting

Every year the season for SEA debates commences just as the sun shines down on the "summer" vacation. And featuring prominently in said debates is the issue of the so called prestige schools. Some wondering if there is such a thing, others suggesting that we do away with such, then others talking about how unfair it is and blah blah blah. I’ve heard rumors of how persons are selected, based on class, wealth, position in society etc. But I always wonder, which parent won’t want the “best” for their kid? 

A simple point, I wonder if anyone ever thought about the possibility of having one of those persons placed in those "prestige" schools, transferred to the non-prestige school, what might be the result? You take one of those kids, who surely would have come from a home where the parents are VERY involved in their education, I wonder what would be the result, if that child will continue to do well? I would imagine they will definitely do well.

Regarding the prestige school and addressing those who condemn it, I wonder why they have issues with them. Which parent would not want the best for their children, the best environment, the best teachers and equally important, the best students and by extension, parents of those best students. Which parent won't want such environment for their kids. Ok ok ok, there are actually some parents who really don't give a crap.

It is my strong opinion that the difference between those prestige and non prestige schools are the parents who raise the kids to be sent off to those schools. Those parents who don't pay nearly the required attention to their children's school life as they should. On a paper “Prestige Schools, Myth or Reality”, Raymond S. Hackett suggests:

If there is a difference between denominational schools and government schools, then this will have to be in the culture of these schools and perhaps the support they may have from parents and other well-intentioned stakeholders. Certainly it cannot be that denominational teachers are more effective than government teachers. My 2002 study of schools in the East-West Corridor (Toco to Diego Martin) revealed no significant difference in teacher performance.

I have heard all sorts of arguments regarding how students are “selected” to attend the “prestige” schools, I wish not to dismiss those arguments outright but will not at the same time dwell on them as I am firm in my belief that a child’s “success” at SEA depend to a great deal, on his or her support structure away from the school environment which is key to any child’s performance at school. With the right support at home, the child can adapt to and be able to deal with the many challenges at school. Therefore, as stated above, if a child from one of the “prestige schools” were to be placed in a non prestige school, I believe that that child will in fact do well.

But I imagine, the prestige debates will continue for some time. Maybe at some point, reality will hit home and more and more parents will accept their responsibilities and ensure that their kids become “Prestige Kids” and the schools would be the ones vying to have those kids attend their schools.

Unknown

Posted in

,

Spread the love

State Parenting

QLI97JMS0SMC2LGR-cp0x184x1280x904-rsz640x360-cp0x0x640x360

By now I’m sure most would have seen the video of the mother punishing her twelve year old daughter for posting pictures of herself in her underwear to Facebook. And naturally the debate is raging. Every expert and of course, pseudo expert is giving their opinion on it. An overwhelming number of persons have commended the mother for her handling of the situation and this is very disturbing. But I guess that’s what you get when pseudo professionals are free to express themselves, lets hope that they are not able to influence too many with their flawed rationales.

Well, if you thought that things were bad enough, up comes the Prime Minister. According to news report, she stated that she could not see any circumstance that would warrant assaulting a child in that manner, admitting too that she did not see the clip of course. But she went further, to suggest that the state should look into legislation to outlaw lick in the homes.

“It will be difficult to intervene, but I know in more developed countries there is legislation against parents assaulting their children, so it is something that we may look into and we can do so through inquiring into pieces of legislation elsewhere and here and see what best can be done,” Persad-Bissessar said.

I think the PM needs to think before acting on this. She must consider the consequences of such action by the state. Whilst I don't advocate beating children, at the same time I cannot blindly support any move by the state to criminalise beating of children in the home, once my interpretation of the PM’s statement is correct of course.

Presently, corporal punishment is outlawed within the school system. As a result, directly or indirectly, children are running wild and any attempt at discipline is met with "you can't beat me". Many adults blame the removing of corporal punishment in schools for the breakdown, justified or not that's the reality. It is very possible that in considering the the banning of corporal punishment in schools, the then Minister had not thoroughly considered the effects of such a move and it would be wise for her to not repeat such.

Instead, the state should consider programs aimed at assisting parents in dealing with such situations. For the PM to say the state needs to consider action to protect children from abusive parents is not addressing the problems in the home. Someone needs to whisper in the ear of the PM that the state cannot protect children by criminalising corporal punishment in the home, BY PARENTS. They can outlaw corporal punishment by the teacher, but not the parent. Again, the consequences are too grave in my opinion.

The state must consider what happens when it outlaw punishment (beating) in the home. Once you do that, how are you going to enforce it. What are the punishment for breach of the laws? Could it be that you jail the parent? Take the child away from the home, and place them in a children’s home? What of those children’s homes, are they capable of providing the care these children need, which the state determined they were not getting in the home?

There are too many factors that are too important to ignore. The solution cannot simply be legislate on how to parent. Yes that’s in effect what the state would be doing, legislating on how to parent. Presently the state can’t even deliver on good governance, they now want to tell us how to parent?

Unknown

Posted in

Spread the love


Unknown

Posted in

Spread the love